By Ashleigh Stewart
What do we mean in healing when we talk
about `letting go'?
Everywhere we turn to get some help in
healing, all we hear is
people preaching to us "you must let it
go!" This probably sounds
like a very nice idea to the person who
seeks guidance and I do
agree with whomever it is that is preaching this statement, but to
the person who is the one in need of healing, just what on earth
does it really mean?
The average human is most likely to have already spent much of their
life denying, suppressing or perhaps not even acknowledging the fact
that he/she does have issues which are causing problems. Many of
these problems are likely to have risen from the experiences they
have passed through in their life until now because they haven't
been handled or understood well.
If we were to suggest `letting go' of the experience as a
means of healing to any human, what do you think they will perceive
that to mean? In my opinion, the meaning of letting go in their eyes
is likely to reflect just the way that their life and experiences
have been handled in the first place! By applying ignorance, denial
and by simply not acknowledging what is actually going on by
choosing to forget about it and turn a blind eye on their situation.
You know what they say after all, ignorance is bliss!!
When we talk about what it means to `let go' of an
experience, what does that mean to you? Personally, my first
perception of this was "let go, does that mean to ignore my
experiences or to simply forget about them and they will go away?"
Does `letting go' mean to simply forget about whatever it was
is causing the problem in our life? In reality no it doesn't.
However, as I mentioned before, to the average human who has spent
most of their lives ignoring their issues, this theory of
go' most probably seems like a great and easy way to get out of
handling their problems head on.
So let's get this straight, just what is this `letting
go'? To be
honest, I have heard from so many sources that "letting go is the
answer", but nobody ever seems to explain what it really means very
well. They claim that this is the solution we are all looking for to
help us heal ourselves from the burden of our experiences. My
question is how can this be when `letting go' can be so
confused with ignorance. Was it not by us being ignorant human
beings that we landed up in the mess of confusion in life in the
first place? Think about it!
Now, I want you to think for a moment about what your own idea
of `letting go' means. Think of it well and hold it in your
mind for now. I will now go on to explain what I have personally
come to understand in my own experience from applying this theory
of `letting go' in my life. Try to see how it compares with
When doing this, remember, we do in fact, as humans, understand and
perceive life according to our own individual maturation and
evolution according to the experiences we have passed through in
life. Do not feel ever feel bad, guilty, or punish yourself in any
way if you realize that you are one of those humans who
thought `letting go' meant taking the easy way out of
handling an experience, because, guess what, I did too and that is
why I am writing this article today!! I would not have been able to
understand my own theory had I not experienced it for myself, so
there you go!!
Learning about what `letting go' really means and actually
being able to apply it in your life is a process which requires your
complete awareness. This process must be approached gracefully and
with your full patience in order for it to work.
The first secret to `letting go' is acceptance. You must be
able to fully accept the circumstances which do or have surrounded
you in your life. Unquestionably!
Acceptance is aided by understanding, by understanding that life
itself is a process. Although you might feel that the circumstances
you are handling in life either at the moment or in terms of your
past are not appropriate to how you truly desire to be living in
life, you must accept that your life path must be allowed to follow
the process toward making a shift in order that changes can occur
and this can take time.
You see, as soon as you make the decision to begin healing yourself,
you are giving your guides or the universe or whatever term you
like, the green light to go ahead and bring forth the experiences
that are necessary in order to encourage your healing thus changing
your life in the process. This is an extremely simple explanation of
the whole process but it is enough for you to hear to give you a
push do what you have to do. As long as you are working on yourself
with a good intention, then all you require in terms of assistance
will be provided to you.
It is so often said the truth reveals itself in layers. Well, this
is true and it is not only true in cases of us having spiritual
teachings and hearing big fancy words of enlightenment! The reason I
say this because this is what we so often associate `so
called' spirituality with. That is, `spirituality' in our
being `fluffy' words of truth, love, light and wisdom! Well,
let me shed some light on that for those of you who think you can
earn your wisdom and enlightenment from attending classes, seminars,
workshops and lectures about spirituality. You are mistaken!
If you really want to become an enlightened human being then you
only have to go inward, and I mean it. Our life circumstances and
experiences, yes, the ones that we are all having such difficulty in
understanding provide the best workshops we could ever attend and we
are our own best teachers. Yet, this is so only if we are able to
understand the purpose of having such experiences in the first place!
So, with that in mind we are really kidding ourselves if we think we
are ready to learn about what it means to be `spiritual' or I
prefer to say, `consciously aware' of our reason for being
we are still unable to handle our life experiences in the first
place? We would not graduate from university with a degree without
first passing high school would we? So why are we so eager to delve
into understanding the universe when it seems that we are unable to
understand our own existence here as a race of humans here on earth
carrying the responsibility of our own small individual fragment of
life amongst the big picture.
So all that growth, wisdom, enlightenment and being
`spiritual' as everyone so `fashionably' likes to put
it, does is in
fact evolve out of us being able to handle, accept and understand
the essence of our life experiences in the first place. This is true
whether you like it or not. We must begin to grow first by
understanding the essence of own purpose here we can ever evolve
further and, I'm sorry but there are no short cuts available
So with all this in mind, it leads me to another secret of being
able to `let go' and that is what I spoke of previously about
being aware of your purpose for being here in the first place. We
all are a spirit, manifest inside a physical human body which serves
that spirit as vehicle through which it can experience life here.
Spirit is a manifestation of energies which come from our soul.
These energies are specific to the experiences and evolution
particular to the souls chosen life path and evolution which it
intends to achieve within the stretch of the lifetime.
In reality life is a process which serves our soul as a means of
gathering knowledge, wisdom and understanding of our existence here
in the physical world. This is necessary in order for the soul to
evolve into higher states of being in other dimensions of the
universe. Our life here, in short, is the soul's school room, if
you like, where all the experiences we embark upon serve the soul
and its evolution.
Now this may or may not make sense to you. In fact, you may believe
that this is an absolutely ridiculous explanation of life, but,
think about it well and see if you can come up with any better ideas
of why we are here. If any of you are able to come up with anything
that makes more sense then please, let me know! As you have probably
realized by now, I do have a very open mind and I am open to
consider any alternatives!
Take a look around. Look at yourself, the people you know, watch the
news and make your self really aware of what is going on in the
world today then think about what I have said. You do not owe
anything to me to agree with and convert to my beliefs. It is after
all your own free will in the end and it will not sway me otherwise.
However, think about yourself and where you are going in life with
all of what you have experienced. That is all I ask of you here!
Now, even if you do not understand much of what I have said on a
conscious level so far, just consider it without judgment for a
while and you might see that somewhere deep inside, something
will `click'! On the other hand, if you do understand by
really `knowing' what I mean and it feels right to you then
begin to live that life and trust it because this is the true
essence of your being!
Now, getting back to learning to `let go' I would like to
mention the importance of placing no blame upon anyone involved in
your experiences, that includes you! You must not feel guilty
Blame and guilt are both bred from judgment. Where there is
judgment, there is limitation and where you create limitation and
judgment there is no room for growth, thus, you lose the essence of
the whole experience in the first place! So, what is the point?
Last but definitely not least, you must learn to forgive. Forgive
yourself and all of the other people who were or are involved in any
part of your experiences that have ever harmed or abused you. Think
back to what I said earlier that humans act according to their own
growth and maturation. Perhaps those people who hurt you are only
living according to their own understanding of life and the
experiences they have passed through themselves.
If on the other hand you know they are abusing you or taking you for
granted as a means of manipulation, you still must forgive them
without judgment. However, it is your own responsibility to handle a
circumstance like this accordingly by never allowing it to happen to
yourself again. There is a huge lesson for you to learn under such a
In the end life is only an experience and if you have difficulty
understanding and accepting what I have said then consider this. The
people who have hurt you, abused you and mistreated you in any way,
even those who you'd consider to be your worst enemy are in fact
the people you are blessed to have in your life.
Why do I say this? Well, simple, because these are the one who will
provide you with the most growth in the end. They are your soul
mates too! In reality, our worst experiences are our best assets as
these are the ones who provide us with the most growth. However,
this is so as long as we are able to handle them properly by
learning what we must from them and moving on emotionally unbound
into new experiences in the future.
This is how we should be living ideally. The reason we must let go
is because if we do not then we will stagnate in our growth by
hanging onto the experiences of our past. We will never move on in
life if we persist in doing this and I do believe that this is one
of the major problems which we are facing as an entire human race
today. I am not asking anyone to convert to my beliefs. That is not
my business. All I ask is that you consider what I say and at least
try it. I did and both my self and my life have changed dramatically
as a result.
Your life is a gift, experiences are a gift and your worst
experiences are the greatest gift your soul can ever bring to you,
so just allow yourself to let go and grow up a little bit and
you'll see what a difference it makes. Also, when you change your
circumstances and the people around you will change according to
you. Just give it a try and you'll see for yourself!