By Ed Hirsch
The Chief thing I look for in relationships is trust.
Business and Personal alike, when trust becomes an issue, my
tendency is to back out of the effort.
Face it, all relationships require work ... an effort to
listen, understand and respond accordingly, appropriately to
build and reinforce more trust. So many times, people let
others down relative to what they say (their word) and what
their actual actions are.
Belief, doubt, faith, insight and encouragement are other
words which come to mind when I think about trusting
others. The best thing I can do, is conduct my own life
and behaviors in such a way to inspire trust from you.
If I explain to you that, "If you enroll in my business
opportunity, you can trust me to help you to achieve your
dreams" ... this may sound good, but ...
Have you heard that if someone says "Trust me!"
(the "T" word) it is an automatic red flag NOT TO trust
I lead toward this more conservative perception.
Sincere Trust is a Chemistry, much like love ... we don't
completely understand it. "I don't know why I love her, I
just do ... it seems right."
Spiritual connections DO occur and the more you have with
others, the better. Deep relationships provide increased
significance to our lives. I'm not referring to intimate
relationships ... I'm talking about meaningful ones which
add, increase and enhance how we feel about ourselves and
how interaction with others takes on more fulfilled
"The more I know, the less I understand" wrote and recorded
Don Henley from his End Of The Innocence's Heart Of The
in 1989. I know that in my own life, I do pride my own
character on trust and honesty, because this is what I would
like to receive most back in return from others.
When you get to the point in your own life where you
sincerely trust yourself, prove it! When you show others
that you are, "not being your word", you create an extremely
difficult environment for others to trust you.
It is better to remain silent, then to talk without
Be careful to "watch" what you say ... work to sincerely
trust yourself and begin to see your New Year turn around
for the better.
2002 will be a year of Sincere Trust for me ... perhaps it
will for you too!