by Kathy Thompson
You can control your own actions and reactions. You can control others. You can control the situation. It is your choice.
Seriously, you can. I am going to show you how you can do this. What you are about to discover is so easy and unique, everyone can do it. Our world would be better off.
If someone told you "You're getting fat", how would you react? If someone told you "You're getting gray," how would you react? Would you be hurt, angry, or make a joke of it?
You have a choice. You choose your behavior and how you react to other people's communications and behavior. It is your decision to use your personality positively or negatively. It is that decision that affects your relationships with everyone in your life. It can make or break your relationships.
We all have the same personality traits. We are possessive, critical, impatient, tolerant, generous, selective, moody, skeptical, stubborn, adventurous, plus 58 other traits.
Generosity appears to be a nice trait to have, right? Not when it is used to the extreme, then it becomes negative.
Possessiveness appears negative? Possessive people do hoard things, people, and time. On the positive side, they do work towards security, and make good managers and providers.
Once you understand this, you will realize you can control the situation. You can manipulate and use the person or the situation.
You can use this knowledge to your advantage or disadvantage, positively or negatively.
When you act positively you will bring out the positive in others, including children. When you act negatively others will react negatively, including children.
What you project comes back to you!
If you are act positively towards people, they will know it, and that will be related back to you.
Now, what can you do with this information? You can use it to manipulate and control the person and/or the situation.
The control comes from you using it positively or negatively. It is your choice.