Respect - How to teach it and how to show it.
by Steve McChesney
One of the most important things you can teach your child is respect.
in mind that respect is not the same as obedience. Children might obey
because they are afraid. If they respect you, they will obey because they
know you want what's best for them.
The best way to teach respect is to
show respect. When a child experiences respect, they know what it feels like
and begin to understand how important it is.
Keep in mind the saying
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
Respect is an
attitude. Being respectful helps a child succeed in life. If children don't
have respect for peers, authority, or themselves, it's almost impossible for
them to succeed.
A respectful child takes care of belongings and
responsibilities, and a respectful child gets along with
Schools teach children about respect, but parents have the
most influence on how respectful children become. Until children
show respect at home, it's unlikely they will show it anywhere
How can you show respect to your child?
Be honest If you
do something wrong, admit it and apologize.
Be positive Don't
embarrass, insult or make fun of your child. Compliment them.
Trusting Let your child make choices and take responsibility.
fair Listen to your child's side of the story before reaching a
Be polite Use "please" and "thank you". Knock before
entering your child's room.
Be reliable Keep promises. Show your
child that you mean what you say.
Be a good listener Give your child
your full attention.
Children learn from everything we say and do. Make
sure that you are modeling respectful behavior. Some of things you can do
Obey laws Follow rules.
Be caring Show concern for
people, animals and the environment.
Avoid poor role models When you
see examples of disrespect, discuss them.
When you set rules at home,
explain to your child why the rule is important. For instance, if the rule is
"No TV between 4:00 and 6:00" it is because this is homework time and
homework is important to keep grades up in school.
Teach your child to
respect themselves. Self-respect is one of the most important forms of
respect. Once we respect ourselves, it is easier to respect
Your opinion means a lot to your child. If you believe your
child can succeed, they will believe they can as well.
independence. Give them responsibilities as soon as they can handle
Help them set and achieve goals. Their self-respect
will skyrocket when they see themselves achieving those
Encourage honesty. Let your child know that they may be able
to fool some people, but they can't fool themselves. There is no pride in
stealing, cheating, or lying.
Most importantly, show love! Say `I love
you" often and give plenty of hugs and kisses.
If your child makes a
mistake, remind them that they are still loved.
Age affects children's
respect. Children and adults deserve respect at every age. Here is a
guideline based on age:
Babies They are too young to show respect but
when you meet their needs, they learn to trust you. This helps as they
get older because respect for authority is based on trust.
They are old enough to learn to say "please" and "thank
Preschoolers This is a good time to teach rules
Elementary age They show the most respect for
adults who make fair rules. It helps to let them have a say in the rules
that they are expected to follow.
Middle and High Schoolers Allow
them to show independence, such as clothing or hairstyles, but make sure you
have guidelines. They will appreciate the respect you are showing them.
We respect you and the incredible job that you have, being a
Have a great day!
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