By Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach
Do you take the "ignorance is bliss" strategy in your
Many people Sleep-Walk through life, worrying
about what might happen, then "letting things
happen", instead of actively choosing what they want
in their life lives.
The first step to change - any change- must begin
with becoming aware of what you are doing.
How? Stop worrying, start choosing.
Conscious Choice/Conscious Living means knowing
what you are doing, and making a choice to do that,
instead of worrying about, or just letting it happen.
Did you just "End Up" in a job you don't like? Did
you "End Up" living a hectic, frustrating, tiring
lifestyle? Did you "End Up" with too many bills to
Choices come in a lot of colors and shapes in your
life. You are making choices each moment of each
day. Some people find it difficult to believe that they
have free will and are actually designing their lives
each and every minute. A famous quote says it well,
"The way we live our days is the way we live our
So while on the surface the idea that you are
"choosing" to live a certain way (possibly miserably)
seems unfair, it is also quite empowering that YOU
CAN CHANGE IT!
Think for a moment about just the last 24 hours. You
are reading this article as a direct result of your choice
to open the email. You are sitting at a computer as a
direct result of choosing to check your mail instead of
watch TV or eat or sleep or read or go out. You are
wearing clothes that you chose to put on. You get the
You may not realize it - or want to admit it - but not
only have you made the choices as I just mentioned,
but your life AS IT IS TODAY is a direct result of
choices you have made, or allowed others to make for
you. I'm talking not only about those choices made
10 years ago, but also the choices made 10 minutes
ago. You are living somewhere, doing something,
and being with someone through choice.
Was it a Conscious Choice?
One of the first arguments I hear when I mention
Conscious Choice is "But I didn't choose to have this
disease", or "I certainly don't choose to be unhappy".
And one of the hardest things to accept is that life
isn't always fair. Each one of us was born into a set
of circumstances. No one chooses their parents, or
what part of the world they will be born into, or even
what the economy will be.
Those are all things you cannot control. If you focus
on those things, and blame them for your
unhappiness, you will forever be stuck. You are
choosing each and every minute how you will react to
those circumstances. The circumstances cannot
dictate your response.
The real problem in your life is not what mistakes you
made in the past, or what things happened to you that
were out of your control, but what you are choosing -
or not choosing -- to do NOW.
Instead of being paralyzed by what has happened in
the past or what you might predict will happen in the
future, sticking to what you can do now, helps you to
understand that you are free to lead an effective life
now. You are free to forget the past and blaming
And instead spend that time making the choices that
are right for you now. .
What will you choose today?