The Art of Questioning Yourself Well
By Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
Have you ever heard someone say, "I'll
just have to accept my
fate"? I'll bet you have. Did you find it an empowering thing
to hear? Of course, there are several possible interpretations
of the remark. It could mean that the person believes they
have done everything in their power to bring about the outcome
they desire. Then they are willing to accept their fate. On
the other extreme, it could mean, "I have no control at all.
I'll have to take what life hands out to me." It is the latter
that saddens me. How about you?
We all ask ourselves a lot of questions, don't we? What is the
quality of the questions you ask yourself? Do you say things
like, "Why me? Why does this always happen to me?" or "Why
did she say that?" or "What did I do wrong?" These are not
high quality questions.
High-quality questions move you forward immediately. They
focus on positive direction and indicate an understanding of
what's possible. Here are a few: "How can I turn this around?"
or "How can I make it work?" "How can I utilize this?" or "How
can I use this to empower myself and others?" The answers to
these questions increase your personal power and your power to
change the world around you.
The quality of your life can relate directly to the quality of
the questions you ask yourself. Albert Einstein said, "The
important thing is to not stop questioning." What kind of
questions do you wrestle with? There are many ways to ask the
question, "What now?", aren't there? It can be very positive
and possibility oriented, or, it can be negative, anticipating
another problem. It is often not just the words you choose but
the intention behind them. Be careful. This will take some
practice for those of you who know that your questioning could
use a quality adjustment!
Keep a small book handy and make a note of the typical
questions you ask yourself during the day. Do they move you
forward or do they reinforce your sense of powerlessness? When
a question shows up in your head, deliberately re-state it as
a high-quality question. This habit will change your view of
Copyright (c) Rhoberta Shaler, PhD All rights reserved
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, speaker, coach & expert motivator,
nurtures initiative and propels achievement! With her
strategies, your dreams and plans will become measurable
achievements. Join her online community at www.OptimizeLifeNow.com
and get free articles, ezines,
useful tools & strategies, plus teleseminars, products and