Commencement Address at Wellesley College, Wellesley, MA, June 1, 1990.
By Barbara Bush (First Lady of the USA at that time)

[Barbara Bush had a tall order delivering the commencement speech in Wellesley College, Wellesley, MA, June 1, 1990. She was aware that the college was divided in inviting her. There was wide-spread criticism on her selection. See how Barbara delivers a brilliant speech under such circumstances.]

Thank you, President Keohane, Mrs. Gorbachev, trustees, faculty, parents, Julie Porter, Christine Bicknell, and, of course, the Class of 1990.

I am thrilled to be with you today, and very excited, as I know you must all be, that Mrs. Gorbachev could join us. This is an exciting time in Washington, D.C. But I am so glad to be here. I knew coming to Wellesley would be fun, but I never dreamed it would be this much fun! [Laughter.]

More than ten years ago, when was invited here to talk about our experiences in the People's Republic of China, I was struck by both the natural beauty of your campus and the spirit of this place.

Wellesley, you see, is not just a place, but an idea, an experiment in excellence in which diversity is not just tolerated, but is embraced.

The essence of this spirit was captured in a moving speech about tolerance, given last year by the student body president of one of your sister colleges. She related the story by Robert Fulghum about a young pastor who, finding himself in charge of some very energetic children, hits upon a game called "Giants, Wizards and Dwarfs." "You have to decide now," the pastor instructed the children, "which you are: a giant, a wizard or a dwarf?"

At that, a small girl tugging at his pants leg asked, "But where do the mermaids stand?"

The pastor told her there are no mermaids. "Oh, yes there are," she said. "I am a mermaid."

Now this little girl knew what she was, and she was not about to give up on either her identity or the game. She intended to take her place, wherever mermaids fit into the scheme of things. Where do mermaids stand -- all those who are different -- those who do not fit the boxes and the pigeonholes?

"Answer that question," wrote Fulghum, "and you can build a school, a nation, or a whole world."

As that very wise young woman said, "Diversity, like anything worth having, requires effort." Effort to learn about and respect difference, to be compassionate with one another, to cherish our own identity and to accept unconditionally the same in others.

You should all be very proud that this is the Wellesley spirit.

Now I know your first choice today was Alice Walker, known for The Color Purple. And guess how I know? [Bush glances at administration officials.] Instead you got me--known for the color of my hair! [Laughter.] Alice Walker's book has a special resonance here. At Wellesley, each class is known by a special color: For four years the class of '90 has worn the color purple. Today you meet on Severance Green to say goodbye to all of that, to begin a new and very personal journey to search for your own true colors.

In the world that awaits you beyond the shores of Lake Waban, no one can say what your true colors will be. But this I do know: You have a first-class education from a first-class school. And so you need not, probably cannot, live a "paint-by-numbers" life. Decisions are not irrevocable. Choices do come back. As you set off from Wellesley, I hope that many of you will consider making three very special choices.

The first is to believe in something larger than yourself -- to get involved in some of the big ideas of your time. I chose literacy because I honestly believe that if more people could read, write and comprehend, we would be that much closer to solving so many of the problems plaguing our society.

Early on, I made another choice which I hope you will make as well. Whether you are talking about education, career or service, you are talking about life -- and life must have joy.

It's supposed to be fun! [Applause.]

One of the reasons I made the most important decision of my life, to marry George Bush, is because he made me laugh.

It's true, sometimes we've laughed through our tears, but that shared laughter has been one of our strongest bonds. Find the joy in life, because as Ferris Bueller said on his day off , "Life moves pretty fast. Ya' don't stop and look around once in a while, ya' gonna' miss it!" [Cheers and applause.]

I won't tell George that you applauded Ferris more than you applauded him! [Laughter.]

The third choice that must not be missed is to cherish your human connections, your relationships with friends and family. For several years, you've had impressed upon you the importance to your career of dedication and hard work. This is true, but as important as your obligations as a doctor, lawyer or business leader will be, you are a human being first and those human connections-with spouses, with children, with friends-are the most important investments you will ever make.

At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child or a parent.

We are in a transitional period right now -- fascinating and exhilarating times -- learning to adjust to the changes and the choices we men and women are facing.

And may your future be worthy of your dreams. [Applause.]