(FeatureSource) - Work, family, chores, hobbies if we can
squeeze them in, sleep, and then start all over again. In that whirlwind of
activity, we are lucky to find time to exchange a simple hug and kiss with our
loved one. However, you and your sweetie deserve to have romance as a staple in
your life, not as a once-a-year treat on Valentine's Day. You probably don't
wait until you are starving before you eat, and neither should you wait until
you are starving for romance before you do something about it. So how does one
work romance into one's life - especially with all the activities coming up in
the summer? Try these suggestions from Liya Lev Oertel, author of "52 Romantic
Evenings" (Meadowbrook Press).
1. Schedule regular weekly or monthly dates, write them on the calendar, and
treat them as important business meetings that cannot be cancelled under almost
2. Take turns organizing childcare and planning what you will do on those
dates. And planning doesn't mean checking the paper for movie schedules. It's
not too hard to plan fun, creative, and romantic dates. Once you set aside time
and assign responsibility, the probability of romance in your life will increase
3. Don't assume that romance will simply happen when you have the time and
energy for it. It rarely, if ever, will. Romance planning is key. For example,
create romance kits by filling a box, basket, or other attractive container with
all the items necessary for a romantic evening, such as music, nonperishable
treats, bubbly, candles, games, bubble bath, body paints, poetry books, and so
on. And when you happen to have a free hour or two on your hands, turn off the
TV, take out a romance kit, and enjoy a spontaneous romantic interlude.
4. Don't think that it has to be perfect or nothing at all. Most people don't
have the time, staff, and budget for perfection, and so by the time you actually
achieve it, if at all, you will be too tired to enjoy it anyway. Remember, a
spontaneous waltz in your kitchen or backyard can mean more than an expensive
dinner in the most fancy restaurant.
5. Treat romance as a necessity rather than a luxury, because that's what it
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Day for the Romantically Challenged
So you can’t sing like Dean Martin. You don’t dance
like Fred Astaire. There’s still hope this Valentine’s Day. Sweep
your sweetie off her feet with these Valentine’s Day ideas.
Seven Simple Ideas for a Romantic Valentine's Day
However Valentine's Day came about, one thing is
certain. It's the only day of the year designated for intimacy. And with the
hectic pace of our lives these days, is that such a bad thing?
Day Craft Fun
Here are some Valentine crafts that kids can
create to make the holiday even more special.
Find an Excuse to Love
"Some children just need more love." I don't know
how many times I heard Mrs. Tucker say that.
Mrs. Tucker was a 73-year-old woman who worked
with me in an after-school daycare program. She rarely missed an opportunity
to show warmth and affection to a child.