Informative, and General Reading
Smelling the Roses: Better Living Through Savoring
by M. Maureen Killoran
“Stop and smell the roses,” people often
say. Then they smile ruefully, because everybody knows there isn’t
enough TIME to stop or, as my daughter says, to “chill.”
This is the Conventional Wisdom – and I’m
here to tell you that the Conventional Wisdom is simply WRONG.
Researchers in Positive Psychology find that people actually get more
done if they take time out to SAVOR their day. Not only that, but, over
time, people who set aside a few hours every week are likely to be
healthier, more relaxed, and better able to cope with the stresses of
Why not try it? Give yourself the gift of
Savoring. (Hey, stress is all you have to lose!)
To start, make a list of 10 things you
REALLY enjoy doing, whether or not you’ve made time for them lately. I’m
talking about stuff that gives you real pleasure. They may be things you
do alone, or with one other person, or with a group. Look over the list,
and see if one thing says “pick me.” Choose one of those activities that
Now: Take out your calendar, and SOME
TIME IN THE NEXT MONTH, block out at least a 2-hour period that is JUST
FOR YOU. Half a day is better. A whole day is best of all. Do whatever
is needed to make that time free. Ask a neighbor to baby-sit. Tell your
spouse you’ll be busy. Say “no” to the half-dozen requests that will
almost certainly challenge your Savoring Time.
And when Your Day comes . . . GO FOR IT,
whether you’re making a picture, walking in the woods, going to a movie,
or just sitting still. What matters is that you’re doing something you
These tricks will help you get the most
out of your day:
• Give yourself permission – this is Your
Day. It is absolutely 100% okay for you to be taking this time. When
kill-joy thinking comes along (and it will), play with it. Pretend it’s
a stick floating in a stream, and just let it drift away.
• Leave your cel phone at home, or at
least turned off. You’re busy savoring, remember?
• Keep the day alive – collect a souvenir
or take mental photographs to help you hold on to this special time.
• Tell the story – Share your experience
with a friend or partner – the joy that’s shared multiples by ten.
• Write it down. Read it over as a
reminder in a few days or weeks.
When your Savoring time is over,
celebrate! Pat yourself on the back for challenging the Conventional
Wisdom. And, while you’re at it, why not take out your calendar and make
another date for Savoring Your Day?
Then my living shall not be in vain
If I can help somebody as I pass along. If I can
cheer somebody with words or song. If I can show
somebody that he's traveling wrong. Then my living
shall not be in vain.
A Tribute To Rose
Lovely Rose at 87. A wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.
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© Maureen Killoran, SpiritQuest Coaching,
Maureen Killoran, MA, DMin,
is a Life Coach with a passion for helping people connect their
strengths with their vision. Her articles are published on over 100
websites, and have been translated into several languages. Watch for
Maureen's forthcoming e-workbook, Spirit Tickling -- a selection of her
absolutely best articles, with questions to lead you further on your
path of personal growth. www.spiritquestcoaching.com