Informative, and General Reading
Who Is More Likely To Be Happy?
by Lance Beggs
Here's a multiple choice question for
you. Who is more likely to be happy?
(a) Someone who lays awake for an hour or
so at night, replaying the day in their mind and agonizing over what
could have been, and what should have been.
"If only I'd said this..."
"How dare they do that..."
(b) The person who spends five minutes
before bed feeling gratitude for all the good in their lives, and
focusing on the expectation of more to come tomorrow.
It's fairly obvious, isn't it? (I hope
you said "b"!)
How about this one:
(a) The person who drives to work
shouting obscenities at any driver who does not follow their grand
vision of how the trip should proceed, or
(b) The person who takes delight in the
journey- enjoying the breeze through the window, and the sounds of the
city, or their favorite radio station.
It looks like "b" is the winner again.
Hmm! Too easy? Lets try one more.
(a) The person who watches the news each
evening, to hear the latest negativity from around the world. Wars,
killings, political debates, or
(b) The person who turns off the
television, and reads a book, or throws a ball to their children in the
If you got "b" again, CONGRATULATIONS!
You're pretty good at this happiness stuff!
So what's my point?
Every moment in your life, YOU HAVE A
Your actions and your thoughts will
either produce feelings of happiness, or they won't.
You can focus on the negative things in
your life, or you can choose to focus on the positives. One will bring
happiness, while the other won't.
You can worry about the future, and
regret the past, or you can choose to focus on the joy that exists
around you right now. Once again, one of these choices will bring
happiness, and the other won't.
There's not one of us that deep down does
not know the difference between happiness & sadness.
So, ask yourself:
"Are my current actions leading to
"Are my current thoughts leading to
If not, then change your actions. Change
your thoughts. There is very little to be gained through persisting with
Do you dread going to work each morning?
Then either change your job, or change the way you think about your job.
Focus your attention on how you're gaining the necessary skills and
experience to move on to the dream job that you just know is part of
your life's purpose.
Do you hate the drive to work? Then
travel a different route, or try sitting on a bus or train, listening to
your favorite tunes on your MP3 player, or reading a book by your
favorite author. Or use the time for personal development, listening to
self-help audio tapes and CD's.
Have you flicked through all 100
channels, and still found nothing to watch. Well, there is another
choice. You can turn the TV off.
Talk to your partner.
Cook a nice meal.
Read a book.
Play with your kids.
Honest! There is an OFF button on the
Every moment is an opportunity to choose
It's your choice! It's your life. Choose
May the Budgie
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Lance Beggs is the author of the "How to be Happy Now"
newsletter, and the soon to be released "How to be Happy
Now" book. His mission is to help others live a life of
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